We Can Do It And I Am Gonna Figure Out How!

So I thought that the day after Christmas, I would write a very fluffy piece about the importance of family and the ones that you love but... NOPE!

Ladies! I am pissed off!

Tiger Woods has over 14 women that have come forward with pretty substantial evidence that he did indeed cheat on his wife. He then released the following two statements:

"I have let my family down and I regret those transgressions with all of my heart. I have not been true to my values and the behavior my family deserves. I am not without faults and I am far short of perfect. I am dealing with my behavior and personal failings behind closed doors with my family. Those feelings should be shared by us alone.

"After much soul searching, I have decided to take an indefinite break from professional golf. I need to focus my attention on being a better husband, father, and person."

Chris Brown beat the crap out of Rhianna and issued the following statement (this is my blog, and I am not going to use "pc" verbiage) :

"Words cannot begin to express how sorry and saddened I am over what transpired. I am seeking the counseling of my pastor, my mother and other loved ones and I am committed, with God's help, to emerging a better person."

Charlie Sheen was arrested on Christmas Day for a domestic dispute with his wife that resulted in her calling the police. His lawyer released the following statement:

"I think at the end of the day it will be much ado about nothing," he told the Associated Press. "I don't think there's any criminality about what went on. The February court date may be to determine whether a case goes forward or not."

Much ado about nothing?
I think it is safe to say that this, "much ado about nothing" is not how Charlie's wife Brooke felt when she placed the 911 call or how she will feel knowing that the father or her 8 month old twins Max and Bob was in the "slammer" for "Babies' First Christmas!

LADIES! We have got to do something! We have a voice and we need to stand up for ourselves. We deserve more than this! What can we do as a gender to band together and let people know that this kind of behavior by men in the public eye is indeed wrong and frowned upon. When a person commits a crime such as murder, rape or burglary they are tried and judged by a jury of their peers. It is documented and becomes public record. Why are things such as domestic abuse and infidelity accepted just because someone can play a sport, sing or act!

LADIES? What can we do to make this NOT ok? Should we stop purchasing music written by Chris Brown, refuse to play golf or invest in any of NIKE's women golf line or stop watching Two and 1/2 Men on CBS? Would anyone care? Of course they would if there were enough of us in number!

At some point in history women became upset because they were not allowed to vote. In 1776, Abigail Adams wrote to her husband John, to "remember the ladies" when writing the Declaration of Independence. He responded with humor and the Declaration's wording specifies that "all men are created equal". It was not until August 26, 1920 that women were allowed to vote. It did not happen overnight. It took over 144 years of gathering together for one cause. Many entrepreneurial women who created groups, clubs, meetings, luncheons and parties (lets face it, we get a ton done when entertaining is involved!)!

We can do this! We can let young women, our daughters and granddaughters know that the standard that has been set so far is not RIGHT or OK! We need to change how society views the following transgressions:

Domestic Violence
Abuse both emotional and physical
Infidelity

LADIES...WOMEN...GIRLS
We need to find our voice on these issues. We have a ton of organizations that promote the education of the above issues but where are the group of women who just can't stand the fact that anything about those issues are accepted by modern society. We have websites, facebook, myspace and a ton of other media outlets that will allow us to get the word out! So, I'm pretty sure that we can set our sites on anything less than 144 years!

I want to end this blog with the statement issued by Jenny Sanford, the wife of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford who had an affair with his mistress in Argentina. Jenny protected his position in office and the dignity of their sons and the love they once had until all was revealed by the press. Here is her statement:

"I would like to start by saying I love my husband and I believe I have put forth every effort possible to be the best wife I can be during our almost twenty years of marriage. As well, for the last fifteen years my husband has been fully engaged in public service to the citizens and taxpayers of this state and I have faithfully supported him in those efforts to the best of my ability. I have been and remain proud of his accomplishments and his service to this state.

I personally believe that the greatest legacy I will leave behind in this world is not the job I held on Wall Street, or the campaigns I managed for Mark, or the work I have done as First Lady or even the philanthropic activities in which I have been routinely engaged. Instead, the greatest legacy I will leave in this world is the character of the children I, or we, leave behind. It is for that reason that I deeply regret the recent actions of my husband Mark, and their potential damage to our children.

I believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity, dignity and importance of the institution of marriage. I believe that has been consistently reflected in my actions. When I found out about my husband's infidelity I worked immediately to first seek reconciliation through forgiveness, and then to work diligently to repair our marriage. We reached a point where I felt it was important to look my sons in the eyes and maintain my dignity, self-respect, and my basic sense of right and wrong. I therefore asked my husband to leave two weeks ago.

This trial separation was agreed to with the goal of ultimately strengthening our marriage. During this short separation it was agreed that Mark would not contact us. I kept this separation quiet out of respect of his public office and reputation, and in hopes of keeping our children from just this type of public exposure. Because of this separation, I did not know where he was in the past week.

I believe enduring love is primarily a commitment and an act of will, and for a marriage to be successful, that commitment must be reciprocal. I believe Mark has earned a chance to resurrect our marriage.

Psalm 127 states that sons are a gift from the Lord and children a reward from Him. I will continue to pour my energy into raising our sons to be honorable young men. I remain willing to forgive Mark completely for his indiscretions and to welcome him back, in time, if he continues to work toward reconciliation with a true spirit of humility and repentance.

This is a very painful time for us and I would humbly request now that members of the media respect the privacy of my boys and me as we struggle together to continue on with our lives and as I seek the wisdom of Solomon, the strength and patience of Job and the grace of God in helping to heal my family."

Cheers to you Jenny and may I suggest that you call Charlie Sheen and give him some pointers on the well rehearsed speech I am sure he will issue in the next few days.

Schmuck!